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Is Your Spouse Stressing Out?

You know the signs—he’s staring at the computer screen, shooting little aliens or fighting off the zombies that are attacking his virtual front yard. You’ve been trying to talk to him, but you’re getting one-syllable answers. Or she’s immersed in a romance novel and won’t come up for air, or maybe she’s raiding the refrigerator. Whatever his or her coping mechanism might be, you recognize it because you’ve been there before. You know your spouse retreats into that behavior when life is pressing on them too hard. You want to help, but you can’t wave a magic wand and take … Continue reading →

Supporting Your Spouse through Grief

We all experience grief at some point in our lives—it’s part of being alive and human, having emotions, and loving. At times, the husband and wife will both go through the same grief—losing a child or the lesser pain of losing a badly needed job or a loved home. Other times, one spouse will go through a personal grief not quite as deeply felt by the other. In both circumstances, they need each other. If you are the spouse who is grieving, share what you need with your partner. Don’t expect him to just know what you’re going through. He … Continue reading →

Dealing with a Sick Spouse

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Yesterday’s blog, and things that have been happening around here, started me thinking about dealing with a sick spouse. We all know that part of the marriage service that says ‘in sickness and in health,’ but it’s easy to overlook or not be aware just what a difference it can make when your spouse is sick. Whether it is a temporary ailment or a more permanent and serious illness it can still take its toll, not just on the one who is sick but on the one looking after them as well. A woman recently, who had a husband in … Continue reading →

Honor Your Spouse?

In the marriage service it says love, honor and obey or love honor and cherish depending on which version you choose to have. What exactly does it mean to honor your spouse? Let’s start by what it doesn’t mean and what it does. You can honor them or dishonor them by the way you talk to your spouse and the way you talk about them. When you whine and whine to others about your spouse and their faults is that honoring your spouse? Not in my books it isn’t. Instead, it means honoring them with your actions and your words. … Continue reading →

Causes of a Sexless Marriage

There are more of them out there than we might think. Long time married people who are living a sexless marriage. While a loving marriage may be had without sex, I am sure that many will agree with me when I say that sex and physical intimacy should definitely be a part of marriage and can strengthen it. While sex in marriage is private, it is also something that a couple should not be ashamed about and should seek help if needed. As one of my favorite lines from the movie Moonstruck is said when an older couple goes about … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog Week in Review for April 14-20

In case Spring Fever bit you hard and you’ve been out enjoying any nice weather in your area instead of keeping up on Lyn and I’s musings, here’s your handy Week in Review to catch you up on what we wrote about on: Monday, April 14 Already this year I learned what “Love Is” from Families.com members and decided to note some of their secrets and lessons I’ve learned. Because of a book she’s reading and learning from, Lyn wondered where are your priorities? The ones suggested in the book came as a shock to her and she explained why. … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog Week in Review for January 14-20

In case anything kept you from reading the Marriage Blog everyday last week, here’s a recap of what Lyn and I wrote on: Monday, January 14 When You Do Not Care for Your Friend’s Partner Lyn discussed something I think we’ve all experienced at one time or another, either being the person to not like a friend’s choice of mate or being the one not liked. She gave some suggestions for how to handle such a situation when it arises. Do Fairy Tales Exist in the Congo? I wondered what kind of fairy tales (if any) the women of the … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog Week in Review for November 19 thru 25

Last week had the potential to be nuts. There was turkey to eat, football to watch, sales to shop, and family to enjoy (hopefully). In case you were too busy to fully enjoy the Marriage blog, enjoy this week’s Week in Review. It’s your handiest tool for catching up on everything Karri and I covered last week. Monday, November 19 My Husband’s Fascination with Cheaters I don’t know why he’s nuts about the TV show Cheaters, but he is. Tuesday, November 20 My Fascination with the Real Housewives of Orange County Wayne’s guilty indulgence is Cheaters, mine is Bravo’s Real … Continue reading →

Your Children and Your Less Active Spouse

It can be difficult to attend church when your spouse is less active. This can be a struggle on many levels. One area in particular is your children. There may come a time when one or more of your children begin to question whether or not they can stay home with the less active parent or attend church. Children may also struggle when lessons are taught about eternal families and the need for all members of the family to be active. It is important that you handle these issues as a team. You should sit down and speak to your … Continue reading →

Life After Cancer: Spouses

Cancer is devastating for the patient and for the people close to the patient. In a recent survey from www.WebMD.com, more than half of the spouses of men with prostate cancer said that they took an active role in their husbands’ experience. Spouses of cancer patients often experience the same emotions the patients themselves do: fear, helplessness, anxiety, depression, and a loss of intimacy. Spouses who take an active role may supervise treatments and medications, help make treatment decisions, and act as support and morale booster. Many of the cancer survivor spouses said that the disease brought them closer together. … Continue reading →